February 16th, 2003


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jimbojones
02:16 pm - How much of your soul are you really willing to bare to the LiveJournal masses?
I've always made a lot of assumptions about relationship vs sex issues in the past... generally erring WAAAAAY on the side of "safety." Lately, I've been questioning and revisiting a lot of those assumptions. So I'm curious - where do people tend to stand on this stuff?

Fair warning: you may or may not consider some of these questions to be WAY too intrusive. If you don't want to participate - don't.

Poll #103100 Gettin' Freaky vs. Establishing Boundaries

The First Kiss

Not unless we're already, officially, Dating.
1(3.3%)
If we kissed, that means we're officially Dating.
2(6.7%)
Let the moment happen; we can figure out where we stand later.
18(60.0%)
Dude, it's just a KISS - who cares?
9(30.0%)

Revisiting the scene of the crime - Kissing Again

We already passed the official "We're Dating" line, so the point is moot.
3(10.0%)
The first one was a freebie, but if we did it again, that means we're Dating.
1(3.3%)
The first one was a total freebie, but it KEEPS happening - we'd better talk about this.
4(13.3%)
The first one was a total freebie, but it KEEPS happening - we'd better talk about this... later.
10(33.3%)
Fuck rules; casual kissing is good for the soul
12(40.0%)

Making Out In Private

We already crossed the Dating Threshold a question or more back. The point is moot.
1(3.3%)
Not until we know where we stand.
1(3.3%)
If we went this far, I assume we're an Item.
5(16.7%)
Let the moment happen - we can figure out where we stand later.
18(60.0%)
If we're not exchanging any fluids besides spit, who cares?
5(16.7%)

Here, There Be Orgasms

We already crossed the Dating Threshold a question or more back. The point is moot.
2(6.7%)
Not until we know where we stand.
4(13.3%)
If we went this far, I assume we're an Item.
4(13.3%)
Let the moment happen - it's better to figure out where we stand later, after the hormones die down.
16(53.3%)
If it feels good, do it - that's all there is to it.
4(13.3%)

Even Bill Clinton would have to admit that it's Sex

We already crossed the Dating Threshold a question or more back. The point is moot.
4(13.3%)
Not until we know where we stand.
7(23.3%)
If we went this far, I assume we're an Item.
3(10.0%)
Let the moment happen - it's better to figure out where we stand later, after the hormones die down.
11(36.7%)
Condoms are the only concession I will make to the free, unquestioned, and unquestioning expression of my sexuality! ROWR!
5(16.7%)

 
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[User Picture] From: sanguine37
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 12:08 pm
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I took the poll, but I have to say that it probably isn't complete. The way I answered each and every question would have changed according to situation which is why I went with the safe answers. There have been times in my lif when I've wanted to have the talk, and other times when I just wanted to fuck and have the talk later, and then there were times I just wanted to fuck and never have the talk. They didn't happen in any particular order but were usually dependent on the other party and the way each relationship came about and danced. There were some people for which I felt nothing but a casual friendship and some deep glistening hormonal urges and others (much fewer) who could move me just by stroking my cheek.
I just don't think I could accurately nail my feelings down for you because I just don't believe that we should limit ourselves by rules, and that we should decide how we should proceed in every situation individually.

But, you knew all that, so phhbbbbt to you.


 
[User Picture] From: jimbojones
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 12:24 pm
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Yeah, I knew all that. =)

This wasn't really intended so much to be a question as "would you have casual sex?" or not - some of the answers pretty much imply specifically that you would or won't, but that's not really the thrust of it; it's a question of when and where you tend to draw lines.


 
[User Picture] From: sanguine37
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 12:30 pm
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Deep glistening hormonal urges!
Just felt like repeating that.

Actually, I usually just draw the line at when it stops being comfortable. Usually, that means anal sex.



 
[User Picture] From: mrmiasma
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 12:49 pm
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Actually, I usually just draw the line at when it stops being comfortable. Usually, that means anal sex.

When did we start talking about Vanilla Sky?


 
[User Picture] From: sanguine37
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 12:51 pm
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When aren't we talking about Vanilla Sky?
And anal sex?

I love the two equally.


 
From: aduncous
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 02:16 pm
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the elusive trois!

The biggest hurdle to finding that "special someone" is whether or not your mutual attitudes towards the implications of sex ally. That's a toughy, often being shrouded in projected social norms and applied "tradition." Really, there is a big difference between wanting to fuck and wanting to date (neither option being "right" nor "wrong"), and not being able to draw a line between the two is the norm by which most of us were raised.

...The worst part of all this moral confusion is that it's always so goddamn hard to get that third girl in the sack.


 
[User Picture] From: hotcrab
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 03:33 pm
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um...this isn't high school anymore man


 
[User Picture] From: herbaliser
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 03:37 pm
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I was gonna say...


 
[User Picture] From: jimbojones
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 06:20 pm
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That's funny, I don't remember having conversations even faintly like this in high school.

(If I had, my answers damn sure would have been different.)


 
[User Picture] From: herbaliser
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 09:05 pm
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I'm gonna make a post about this.


 
[User Picture] From: hotcrab
Date: February 16th, 2003 - 10:02 pm
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thats right, they hadn't invented sex back when you were in high school


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