February 25th, 2005
|jimbojones||01:40 pm - Deep Thoughts, with jimbojones|
When someone perceives a flaw in a valuable object, there are three possible natural reactions:
1. to attempt to repair or work around the flaw, preserving the object's value
2. to reject the object as flawed and therefore unsuitable
3. to attempt to exploit the flaw or break the object
In different situations, different reactions make more or less sense - but most of us have a fairly heavy bias towards one of these reactions, being considerably more inclined towards it and away from the others... even when our preferred reaction isn't really very appropriate. Selecting the appropriate response to a given scenario of this fundamental type is something that I've only recently recognized as a very real problem of mine, and have been trying to deal with. My own bias is very, very strong, and - until now - almost entirely unexamined. Dealing with it is a struggle.
I think most people have this problem; the major difference being which choice they're irrationally biased toward. Which type are you?
Current Mood: armchair philosophical
Current Music: DJ Encore - I See Right Through To You (vocal mix)
hm, I tend not to go to #3
much, but I have about equal parts #1
in me. With inanimate things it tends to sway more towards #1
, with people (especially people I hardly know) #2
There is also a #4
. "accept it as is". that, I don't think is a "natural" reaction... but one borne of extreme discipline and higher-reasoning skills.
For inanimate objects, superglue works best for me.
And if glue or duct tape can't fix it, find someone else who wants it or toss it out.
For animate objects, I generally try option 1 first. In my dogs' cases, this is the only option, as I can't get rid of them (it would break my heart), nor is there any real way to exploit piles of shit lying around the house (if there is, someone PLEASE clue me in.) For people, it depends on how far into the relationship I realize the flaw. If I have investment in the relationship (which includes how deeply I feel for the person), I tend toward #1
. If it's something I don't want to deal with, and I'm not heavily invested, I go toward option 2.
It also depends heavily on what type of "flaw" it is. If the flaw is the person is horrible at Literati, sure, I'll go for #3
and ask them to play me and get my rating up. But other than that sort of exploitation, I can't think of any that I would truly pursue.
I am absolutely, 100% #1
. This is why I am living in my parents house, while still dating my alcoholic bipolar husband (who, btw, is #3
) despite the fact that he doesn't help me out with our daughter financially, emotionally or any other way. Until just now I didn't realize that this may be the same reason I got most of my furniture out of other people's trash.
Number 1 for evaluation purposes. If the flaws become way too apparent and difficult, I go to #2
I'm attached to my vehicles and that, but if they don't run and i'm fixing it up every day... no way in hell i'm going to keep it. If it's a person... I'll try to work around flaws, or accept them, but when some are so blatantly bad that you know you can't stand being around them... I get rid of them.#3
... i'm not much on the exploits. Whether in video games, real life, etc.