I asked Laural about you a while ago. You've been missed.

Please don't be so cryptic now - are you doing long distance relationship?

Anyway, ♥

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Well, I'm pretty firmly ensconced in Columbia and she's pretty ensconced in the need to follow a gypsy life for the next several years (visiting assistant professorships each year until eventually getting a tenure track job somewhere) so... well, kinda hard to see a path to follow that leads to us being in the same zip code again.

Academics put up with WAY too much just utterly ridiculous shit in their career path, in my opinion. It's apparently pretty normal in that world to expect someone in their mid-thirties to blitz from contract gig to contract gig all over the country - for peanuts, with 100K+ in education loans stacked up - until suddenly somebody offers you a tenure track job... somewhere.

I certainly wouldn't put up with that. In my opinion you have to be able to draw between "what you do for money" and "what you do for love" and you have to be willing to pursue them separately if you aren't getting both in the same place. Like, don't cook your food on a space heater and don't warm your house with a gas oven, right?

Sigh.

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You KNOW I do research administration right? So, all day long I deal with bitter, bitter people who have as their only way to feel better about their choices taking the piss out of me because I don't have an MD or PhD.

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Are her wanderings really about the career or more about an emotional need to roam? I had a very nice roommate who was 44 and was a traveling nurse until I met her. She was sweet but I have no doubt that while she thought the traveling was fun, there were underlying emotional reasons for it. If this might be true in your case, you may be better off in the long run to find someone with sticking power.

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i dunno you, but i find that shit a plan gets me un-bummed out faster than just bouncing along. i personally focus a day on bumming, a day on forcing myself to do something engrossing and then i'm, well, not ok, but not "not ok", if you follow.

stay gay!

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Missed ya jackass. Call me one of these days or something.

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Sorry you're having a hard time Jimbo. I hope you feel better soon. It is nice to see you pop in once in a while. :)

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Shit. What's going on this week? Josh (zornog) just posted about a breakup. And shit seems to be going down with other people including myself. According to the horoscope, venus is in retrograde (bad news for love) but still that doesn't explain the other stuff going on

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give me a call at some point, we'll get a beer.

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It is really odd that I thought of you today. Out of the blue, there you were in my head, waiting for footage of some serious sidewalk mowing. I haven't given up on that, I'm still waiting for her to get jiggy wid it, and by the way, she's still wearing that split up dress which now sports ripped up sleeves. There is no way she is washing that thing, and you may want to look away here - but it's got brown stains in the area where brown stains can originate if you're not very concerned with personal hygiene.

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It's amazing just how ambiguous a statement "there is no way she is washing that thing" actually is.

No matter HOW you interpret it, I'm pretty sure I just threw up in my mouth a little bit.

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As much as I lurk the LiveJournal lately... strangely I've missed your posts, whether it be on here or Pen.

Good to have ya sorta around, but as always... take care of yourself. Sounds like a lot of people are hittin' some odd times lately. Just keep us informed dammit.

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