09:58 pm - bleh So I kinda haven't been on the internet much at all for months. That was largely due to being in a serious relationship, partly in general due to trying to change the balance between local life and internet life, and partly due to being crazy ass busy.
Kristi has left to restart her life on the other side of the continent now, but I dunno if that means I'm really going to start posting a whole heck of a lot more. I love you guys - and I mean that - but, well, yanno. Real life and all that. I should probably at least try to continue keeping more of my focus on that...
PS it's fucking 94 degrees outside AND IT IS TEN O'CLOCK PM. I am not having this shit. GAH.
Well, I'm pretty firmly ensconced in Columbia and she's pretty ensconced in the need to follow a gypsy life for the next several years (visiting assistant professorships each year until eventually getting a tenure track job somewhere) so... well, kinda hard to see a path to follow that leads to us being in the same zip code again.
Academics put up with WAY too much just utterly ridiculous shit in their career path, in my opinion. It's apparently pretty normal in that world to expect someone in their mid-thirties to blitz from contract gig to contract gig all over the country - for peanuts, with 100K+ in education loans stacked up - until suddenly somebody offers you a tenure track job... somewhere.
I certainly wouldn't put up with that. In my opinion you have to be able to draw between "what you do for money" and "what you do for love" and you have to be willing to pursue them separately if you aren't getting both in the same place. Like, don't cook your food on a space heater and don't warm your house with a gas oven, right?
You KNOW I do research administration right? So, all day long I deal with bitter, bitter people who have as their only way to feel better about their choices taking the piss out of me because I don't have an MD or PhD.
Are her wanderings really about the career or more about an emotional need to roam? I had a very nice roommate who was 44 and was a traveling nurse until I met her. She was sweet but I have no doubt that while she thought the traveling was fun, there were underlying emotional reasons for it. If this might be true in your case, you may be better off in the long run to find someone with sticking power.
i dunno you, but i find that shit a plan gets me un-bummed out faster than just bouncing along. i personally focus a day on bumming, a day on forcing myself to do something engrossing and then i'm, well, not ok, but not "not ok", if you follow.
Shit. What's going on this week? Josh (zornog) just posted about a breakup. And shit seems to be going down with other people including myself. According to the horoscope, venus is in retrograde (bad news for love) but still that doesn't explain the other stuff going on
It is really odd that I thought of you today. Out of the blue, there you were in my head, waiting for footage of some serious sidewalk mowing. I haven't given up on that, I'm still waiting for her to get jiggy wid it, and by the way, she's still wearing that split up dress which now sports ripped up sleeves. There is no way she is washing that thing, and you may want to look away here - but it's got brown stains in the area where brown stains can originate if you're not very concerned with personal hygiene.