March 30th, 2003

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07:53 pm - Some things, I just don't get
Wtf is up with all these girls bitchin' about how their man won't have sex with them? Or more accurately, what's up with their men, I guess. I'll admit it - at the ripe old age of 31, my libido has decreased slightly... to the point where it doesn't drive me CONSTANTLY FUCKING INSANE wanting sex, at least. But certainly not to the point that I can imagine AVOIDING sex with someone I genuinely like.

Assuming that I actually like the person on the other end of the equation, I have three sexual conditions:

  2. Okay, I'm not in the mood at the moment, but with a little snuggling-with-malice-aforethought first... awwwww, yeah. C'mere.
  3. Jesus CHRIST woman this is the fifth time TODAY, are you trying to KILL ME?
I pretty much have to accept the evidence of my own eyes, which tells me that the vast majority of people (of EITHER gender) start losing interest in the sexual end of any given relationship once it gets past a certain stage. But I sure as hell don't grok it, baby.

Current Mood: aggravated
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[User Picture] From: starfyer
Date: March 30th, 2003 - 06:56 pm
I'm not gonna complain because he DOES have sex with me, HOWEVER - I do feel like my libido is bigger than his, which is fucking weird, because he's a 21 year old guy fer chrissakes. I feel like I'm always the one initiating sex so even though it sucks for me to withhold, I don't do it anymore unless he's the one gettin' on me. Fie.

[User Picture] From: ravenword
Date: March 30th, 2003 - 07:31 pm

Kat, I don't know how much you guys have talked this over, but it's possible that he might just be in the habit of letting you initiate things. I've found that that can happen over time -- building up a sort of, "Well, if she were in the mood she would have made a move, 'cause that's what she usually does, so she must not want that kind of attention right now," attitude.

Anyway, if you haven't discussed this, it's worth doing. If you have, well, um... I have links to a few novelty items that can help you out.

[User Picture] From: biffious
Date: March 30th, 2003 - 08:22 pm
Don't withhold it totally, cos there's nothing worse than a guy feeling like he has to reach over the bed and tap his missus on the shoulder to actually get some. Guys find it sexy when the chick starts stuff.
But do chat to him about it if you don't think he's doing his fair show of starting stuff. Maybe suggest some fantasy type scenario's you might have over a bottle wine. He might take the hint and try them out some time.


[User Picture] From: jimbojones
Date: March 30th, 2003 - 08:43 pm
there's nothing worse than a guy feeling like he has to reach over the bed and tap his missus on the shoulder to actually get some.

Goddamn right - I HATE that shit. I'm happiest with the ratio being about 50/50 with who's doing the move-making.

[User Picture] From: starfyer
Date: March 30th, 2003 - 08:48 pm
Oh hell yeah me too! I guess it seems to me that it's like 90-10... i'd be more than happy with even 60-40!! we've talked about it, and he feels like he initiates a lot. maybe i just don't notice. so thats what i'm trying to find out :)

From: aviatrix440
Date: April 1st, 2003 - 03:43 pm
You'd never hear me complain. What they say about the libido of women in their 30's... I realize is true.

Sometimes I think it will be nice to be old. Then I can actually concentrate on things like reading a book, or taking a class. For that matter, chewing GUM!!!!

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